Alright, it’s time to look at purchasing things (for our baby registry).

Things I specifically need to look into:

Here are the essentials we need to think about:

Specific promising items:

Cool companies:


Next steps:


While research birthing styles, I stumbled upon quite a few mentions of The Birth Partner. I may read it.


I’m halfway through What To Expect When You’re Expecting, and there have been a few useful things so far.

Something that seems like it needs a lot of investigation is birthing styles. Apparently there are a lot of strong opinions on techniques pain-management, muscle control, etc. Here are the methods I’m seeing mentioned frequently:

At first glance, Lamaze classes don’t seem to be very helpful.

The Bradley Method seems quite popular, and something warranting further research.

On hypnobirthing:

the basic premise is, have you ever seen animals give birth? they don’t scream in pain the whole time and they aren’t tense… they just kinda space out and the babies come out. the idea is that our bodies can open up and slide the baby right out if we are relaxed, it’s only our fear of labor and our belief that it has to be difficult and painful that MAKES it difficult and painful by making our bodies tense up in fear. ever tried to push out a poo while simultaneously clenching your butthole shut as tight as possible? doesn’t really make sense, right? so the whole ‘hypno’ thing is actually training yourself to focus on being in a relaxed state, plus unlearning everything our society believes about how birth is supposed to go, so the fear doesn’t creep in and interfere. there’s lots of science about how your natural hormones work together to accomplish this, too, plus plenty of evidence of it working this way in cultures without our medical practices.


Reflections on six months of fatherhood


Next steps:


My friend is a development psychologist; she recommended some great books:


A few days ago we decided to purchase a rocking chair.

We chose this for comfort, but definitely thought this was much cuter.


Toki Pona is a tiny human language created in 2001.

“tenpo kama lili la, mi jo jan lili” translates to “Soon, I will have a small person.”

Toki Pona has ~140 total words. The entire grammar can be learned in a single day. Toki Pona is very easy to pronounce – it only uses the most basic consonants and vowels found in every language.

And Toki Pona is extremely “buildable”. With only ~140 words, every new word is an invention of your experience. You don’t have to know the special word for “rain” because “telo sewi” (“sky water”) makes perfect sense. You don’t have to know the word for “coffee” because “telo seli pimeja” (“hot dark liquid”) or “telo wawa” (“power liquid”) get the point across.

Easy to understand, easy to pronounce, easy to improvise – I would imagine that these features make it a fantastic first language! Let’s give babies the tools to communicate their needs and thoughts and questions as early as possible.

The only problem is becoming fluent in a language that only ~5,000 people speak 😅


More books:


I recently found a fun book called The Game Theorist’s Guide to Parenting: How the Science of Strategic Thinking Can Help You Deal with the Toughest Negotiators You Know–Your Kids. It might be a fun read someday!


I discovered a lovely documentary called Lessons from a Calf, where a classroom of 3rd-5th graders care for a calf over multiple years.

There were multiple points in this film that made me gasp. I don’t want to spoil anything, but children get it. They can understand how the world works, and how it relates to their own lives. They can process difficult emotions and moral quandaries.

When did you realize that cows were made of meat? When did you realize that you were made of meat?

Most parents try to create sterile environments for their children: no death, no fear, no grief, and no responsibility.

This documentary convinced me that the rawness of life can teach incredible lessons. Taking care of other creatures seems to be a great way to raise ethical, empathetic, responsible, smart children.


Well, I’m going to be a dad in a few months.

Which means it’s time to hit the books!

Beginning research areas:

Online resources:

Interesting book recommendations for now:

Interesting book recommendations for later: